Mother's Day lunch: how to book and what to ask

The easiest way to a good Mother's Day lunch is to book early, tell the place who is coming and ask what the menu looks like on the day. Many places run a set lunch and fill their tables weeks ahead. Check the date each year, as it moves with the calendar.

Book early

Lunch is the meal most people choose, so lunchtime tables go first. Book as soon as you know the date and the number. If you need a table for a large family, book even earlier. Where a place takes bookings on Mosey, you can see the free times and book at no cost.

Ask about the menu

Many places serve a set menu on the day. Ask whether there is a choice for each course, what the price covers and whether drinks are extra. If anyone has dietary needs, tell the place when you book. A kitchen with notice can plan.

Think about everyone at the table

The person you are taking out may not be the only one with needs. A family lunch can include grandparents, parents and children. Check the following:

• Is there step-free access, and are toilets accessible?
• Is there space for a buggy or a wheelchair?
• Is the room quiet enough for conversation?
• Is there a children's menu or simple options?
• Are there high chairs?

Raters often mention these things, and a place's page will show the tags.

Choosing the time

Choose a time that suits the least flexible person. An early lunch is easier for small children and for older relatives. A later one gives a calmer morning. Tell the place if you expect to linger, because some tables are turned.

Deposits and cancellation

For larger groups a deposit is common. It usually comes off the bill. Read the terms and keep the confirmation. If numbers change, tell the place early.

If you are too late

If everywhere is full, consider a cafe, an afternoon tea, a picnic or cooking at home. Or choose the weekend before or after. Joining a waitlist can also work.

Gift ideas

If you want to give something, a gift voucher for a place she likes is thoughtful. Or a card and a simple coffee together. Our guide to afternoon tea is helpful if she likes a quieter meal.

Choosing a place she will like

Think about what the day is for. Some mothers want a grand lunch, and some would rather have a quiet table and a long chat. Pick a place where the food suits her tastes, the room suits her mobility and the pace suits her mood. Asking her preference in advance is kind, and it can be done lightly, as a question about what she fancies.

If the family is far apart

If the family is spread across the country, choose a place near the person who will find travel hardest. A shared meal at a midway point can work too. Agree a time that gives everyone a fair journey, and book early so that nobody is left with the leftovers.

Make it easy

A Mother's Day lunch does not need to be elaborate to be good. Most mothers would rather a calm, unhurried meal with the people they like than a grand one with a long wait. Pick somewhere that makes that possible. Confirm the booking a day or two ahead. Arrive a little early. If someone has trouble walking, ask for a table near the entrance. A relaxed meal beats a perfect one.