Eating out with children: how to choose a place

To eat out well with children, choose a place that welcomes them, go at a time that suits their day and keep the meal short enough that nobody falls apart. Most of the work is in the choosing. Here is what to check.

Look for the family friendly tag

On Mosey, raters tag places as family friendly and mention things like high chairs and changing tables. Look at the tag and read the ratings. A rating that says the staff were kind to a crying toddler tells you more than a star score.

Check the practical things

Ask or look for:

• High chairs and booster seats.
• Space for a buggy.
• A changing table.
• A children's menu or simple options.
• Step-free access.

If it matters, ring ahead. Staff can tell you in a minute.

Choose the time

Early is easier. A lunch or an early dinner fits most children's routines and avoids the crush. A late booking is a gamble. If your child naps, plan around it.

Look at the menu

Children often want something simple. A menu with plain pasta, chicken, chips or a sandwich helps. If your child has an allergy, tell the place when you book. Ask how the kitchen handles it. Do not rely on a menu label alone.

Pick the right room

A room with some noise is more forgiving than a hushed one. A table near the exit lets you step out. A garden or a patio gives room to move. A very formal room is likely to be stressful.

Bring things

A small bag with colouring, a book or a toy helps. Bring a snack in case the food is slow. Wipes are always useful.

Order fast

Order drinks and starters early, so that children have something to eat while the main course cooks. Ask for the children's meal to come first, if you like.

Be kind to yourself

Some meals go badly. That is fine. Pay, thank the staff and try another day. Most places are used to it.

What to do when it goes wrong

A spill, a tantrum or a sudden refusal to eat is part of the deal. Step outside for a minute with the child, and let the other adult stay with the food. Staff generally prefer a short calm break to a long struggle at the table. If you need to leave, ask for the food to be boxed and pay on the way out. Most places will help.

If your child is a fussy eater, order a side of plain bread, rice or chips so there is always something safe. Try not to turn the meal into a battle. A relaxed table makes for better eating over time.

Eating out with teenagers

Older children are more flexible but have their own tastes. Let them help choose. It makes them more likely to enjoy it.

A worked example for a toddler

Suppose you have a two-year-old and a free lunchtime. Choose a place with a high chair, a simple menu and a table near the door. Arrive just before the rush, so that the food comes quickly. Order the child's meal first, bring a toy and a cloth, and let them eat while you wait for yours. Keep the meal short, and leave before tiredness arrives. Tipping a little extra for the mess is a kindness that staff remember.

A worked example for older children

For older children, involve them in choosing. Show them two menus and let them pick. Ask what they want to try. Children who help decide are more likely to eat what arrives, and the meal becomes a small adventure rather than a negotiation.

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